Getting back to dating after divorce
But because you are a responsible grown-up, you know that would be a really stupid thing to do.
After all, you've worked hard to get to where you are today.
You won't like every thing about his kids, and they won't like every single thing about you.
But you will both be able to trust that your opinions are honest and the developing relationship is genuine. Make sure you don't let your new boyfriend approach your kids like they are Oscars that can be won if his performance is impressive enough.
The good news is now that your divorce is final and you survived the temporary insanity that it caused, you're ready to consider another relationship.
I'm talking about a vetting period measured in months, not days.Not only is this strategy unfair, it often backfires.It's not fair because it involves manipulating the emotions of children simply to further your love life. It backfires because when you start off acting like a fan rather than a friend, you often end up pretending to be someone you're not.That initial phase of a new relationship can be one of the most amazing rushes ever.Everything about it makes you want to go full speed ahead, taking your relationship from brand new boyfriend to forever-and-ever life partner in a matter of days.